The MAIN problem when you listen to what other people tell you about the 4+ Assessments.

Do you know the only person you should be listening to and paying attention to?

Your child.

If you focused purely on your child for 12 months, I guarantee you will have far higher chances for success in their 4+ Assessments.

Here is the main problem when listening to what other people say when it comes to the 4+ Assessment.

You are playing a comparison game that you will NEVER win.

Comparing your child to other children is the most frustrating thing that you could ever do as a parent.

Just expect that as soon as you start to prepare for the 4+, everyone around you will seem to have an opinion.

Expect people to say things like…

‘Your child is two what is wrong with you?’

‘You’re tutoring your 2/3 year old?’

‘Your child is 3/4, what on earth could they even be asked to do?’

‘It’s ridiculous to tutor a 2 year old.’

‘My child could already read/write count to 20 by that age!’

‘Do not tutor your child for this and that school.’

If you expect it, it will be easier to prepare yourself to gently smile and stay in your own lane.

My son is not preparing formally for a 4+ Assessment (he is 31 months old) but I have had a bespoke, tailored learning plan in place for him since he was 18 months old. Many people have opinions about my learning path that I have in place for my son and it’s all just noise. I know what I want for my son and that’s what matters.

And the same goes for you.

Never compare your child to any other child. I was compared as a child and I remember how detrimental it was. Do not do it. Please.

Your child is the most unique, special individual on this planet. You prepare them to the highest possible standard possible for them. And when other people seem to have ‘well meaning’ things to tell you about their education, simply smile and move along.